I enjoyed the article although, even after finishing it, I'm not quite sure what to make of your situation. All I can say, as a veteran of two divorces before I finally got it right, is that you should give up looking for validation, understanding, compassion from the people around you during a divorce. You have to start new and that means completely new. Once you've really done that, you will be able to look more productively at your role in all this.