It goes both ways. I am the father of six. But I also am a teacher and coach and have had the opportunity to serve many kids not my own. My kids were always part of that. Kids can be wonderful and horrid. My personal belief is that all kids are both. I don't celebrate having children, but I know now it was the right thing for me. But it's definitely not the right thing for everyone. In my teaching and coaching, I have run across so many kids whose parents should not have had children. The problem is how can you know beforehand whether you would qualify as and enhance your life as parents before you have kids.