I've been the provider always. But now my health won't allow me to work, and my wife has become the provider. So for a year plus, I've been doing all the housework. (Our kids are grown though one of them is always living with us.) The housework is a different kind of labor, and my wife is in a little shock about some of the things she is running into out in the world. But the switch is working, and every couple should try it. I don't even mind when she comes home from work and plops on the couch for an evening of TV.