This is one product of the national consciousness which has traded in "How can I make you more comfortable and secure?" for "Look at me and how I stand out".

I would add that, after the lust subsides (and it almost always do es), you may feel there is no love. So go to work on the partnership, the interdependence, and the love will follow. It took my wife and I seven years to realize that we were in love with each other, and another 10 to realize we had no choice . . . we were together forever.

Relax. They are dying off fast. Hope to live long enough to see the demographic changes change politics as well. I'm white and 75, but those old men don't represent or relate to me either.

I'm a guy, but I totally relate to your article. I am a recent veteran of radiation, and I'm still working through the after-effects (including the well-meaning but ignorant comments of people around me). In my case it was Dr Schmuck. My long time dermatologist, I went to him first about the bumps showing up on my head and neck. He walked in with a pretty assistant who got all of the doctor's attention during the 2-3 minutes he touched my head and then said "it's nothing". Fortunately, I didn't trust him and found competent doctors just in time.

This is shocking to me (a white man). I've read the statistics, but this is the first personal rendition of the race problem in medicine that I've read. I've had a lot of medical problems, a lot of time in hospitals. Except for one dermatologist who almost killed me through his neglect, I've had consistently friendly and competent care. This isn't fair, and I will put more of what I have to changing it than I have until now.

What you do is tough. I can only imagine one out of my family of eight who would do it, even though some of them are funny. That said, I'm not a fan of sexual comedy, not for any moral reason but because many of the people who do sexual comedy seem to do it because they have nothing else to say. This is true for me with respect to men and women comics. But I would love to hear your routine. (Is it ever in English?)

I have no doubt that there are churches out there that give their congregation comfort. But that comfort is of no value if it is not extended to others who need it, whether "Christian" or not.

A couple things jump out for me . . . My brother is gay. I would classify him as "successfully" gay, as evidenced by the fact that he has been with the same man for over 50 years and is doing what he wants to do with his life. We…

Vicki -- Though we have some differences (see below), I think your article is of significant value. It touches on a number of important dilemmas and issues. For instance, age gap couples are judged by people who don't understand or attempt to understand what is real in that relationship. (This…